Spicing up a marital relationship sustains its long life!

This text is in the words of my husband;

It is difficult to describe the frustrations of not being able to perform. These were felt most when after starting I would have to give up due to this lack of passion and, on these occasions, it was difficult not to show frustration.

During this period, my wife suggested that it might help if she played with herself while me taping or filming her, and my response was that we would do it while the kids were fast asleep. My wife was then pregnant and her sexual urge was at its climax.

She would also feel very upset when at the point of an orgasm, my organ started to get soft and finally became flaccid. Her repeated disappointments when having sex affected her mood especially since she was in the final month of her pregnancy and that soon she would be giving birth to her baby.

She never complained to me but I could easily tell how frustrated she was. In the meantime, she showed her willingness to display her charm and gift to seduce in front of a video camera or quite simply when photographed by me while the children were either asleep or at school. The fact that I saw her becoming wet and moisture was visible between her thighs would be to some extent a turn-on for me.

That went on for some time with videos and explicit pictures seen at night – something that helped me improve my sexual performance to a certain extent while she got sexually excited thinking perhaps about another man making love to her as she would confess to me from time to time.

During this period, my wife suggested it might better help if she went with someone. By this time talking about it did not cause me great excitement but I did not think it would do me any good. As long as that desired male would not be in bed with my wife, no substantial change in our sex life would occur. The tables turned on and gradually it was my wife who was urging me to find someone to meet her.

Because I cared for her and felt it would be worse to get her to do it and find it had no effect, I could not make any move to introduce her to anyone. She had always felt unable to make any attempt herself to meet anyone, and this was still the same. If it were to happen, it would be naturally or through me making the initial approaches.

In spite of her eagerness, it was left to me to make the first move which I was now reluctant to do, as I know it meant so much to her and she was prepared to do it not from any personal desire but solely for me.

The paradox of the situation will be hard to understand for anyone not directly concerned but after a succession of uncompleted attempts at intercourse, frustration built up to such a pitch that I was dwelling on the problem far too much, and after further discussion we decided to place an advert in an English magazine New Direction and another related magazine

The Journal of Love has been selected for this purpose. My wife and I also thought of the text of the ad and the picture (explicit pictures) we would submit with the advertisement. It was also convened that she would introduce herself as “a housewife who is happily married but seeking a well-endowed male to satisfy her intense sexual needs.”

She would also add that “husband approves, can watch, join in or be in a different room.” The advert would also specify “can accommodate or travel.” This having been done we planned a sequence of events to take place if we could arrange them, so that when we met a suitable person any embarrassment or any suspicion on the part of our children would be minimized.

We went over every situation and scenario we could imagine and planned our reactions to lead to the situations we felt most acceptable. We spent time on this.

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