Women have a different taste for sexually stimulating material.

Such was a woman's verdict on current hardcore material so worshipped by growing numbers of men particularly users of social media. As a wife, I totally share Jackie's views about hard porn. To me, it is not just dislike but utter disgust. Some of my admirers on Facebook think they could impress me by sending pictures and short videos of their erect penises, but my response has always been "I want to touch and suck, and not masturbate on the digital!".

Many recent studies on sex and women show that more than 56% of women reach their orgasms during intercourse; others reach their climax during social interactions with males they fancy or in foreplay. Very few use explicit images or pornographic videos to achieve orgasmic situations. From my own perspective, most available materials in the industry have been designed and marketed for male consumption. Rarely have they consulted women for their taste or lack of interest in designing sexually stimulating material.

This male-dominated attitude in the sex industry has led people to believe that women "do not look,"; "Women do not see," or "Women have very little interest in sexually stimulating material." The but a few instances that have fossilized in the minds of people, especially males.

Other biases and prejudices that have been attributed to women (by men) are:

"Women have a low sex drive."

"Women fear sexually stimulating material because taboo."

"Women never have fantasies."

To mention but a few.

As a sexually aware wife, and from my long experience with male lovers, I can assure you that these explanations and stickers assigned by males to define female tastes and sexuality are all wrong and do not reflect in any way the truth.

It is true that women in general prefer the real to the virtual, especially in matters related to sex life. They are equally stimulated by things romantic, passionate, and affectionate. To a pornographic video, they prefer reading passages from a book of fiction like Madame Bovary or Le Rouge et le Noir.. To women, romantic reading is more sexually stimulating than a porn film with all the exaggerated effects and artificiality. In other words, women, unlike men, emphasize and enhance their animal instincts when it comes to sexual stimulation and sexual fulfillment.

Women have as many or even more fantasies than men but they keep them secret. Very few women talk about their fantasies; they are treasured in a dark corner and displayed when needed. Female imagination, according to sexologists of repute is more fertile than that of men and fanciful feelings and scenarios apply more to women than men.

If men tax women with a low sex drive, then they are themselves impotent and have very little to do with sexual power.. Women can easily reach six orgasms a night whereas a man is totally knocked out after two. It is a complete fallacy to associate women with a low sex drive. I've been married for 20 years and my husband has always been the first to admit defeat in bed.

In lovemaking, a woman can keep up with 2 or 3 males and serve them royally and a man will be sometimes at a loss with just one woman.

As a married woman, perhaps representing a large number of women in matters related to sex stimulation and sex fulfillment, I can assure you, my readers, that I have a higher sex drive than most males I have slept with. I have in real fact as rich and explicit fantasies as men, and that my delight in and need for a response to fantasy has roots as basic and earthy as men's.

I have imagined sex and had it with young boys. I have had sex with relatives and enjoyed it to the full. I have had sex and imagined it afterward with strangers. I have had sex with force, pain, and humiliation. I have had forbidden sex with males like the husband of my daughter or the father of my husband and liked it immensely and have been impregnated by my father-in-law and my son-in-law.

All of the above figures are in the imagination of the vast majority of women. Where there is fantasy and the response to fantasy, there would be a response to the depiction of such scenarios.

Let's simply grind to a conclusion by saying that when it comes to sexually stimulating material females are geared towards eroticism while men are fascinated with pornography. Women are at present revolted, not because erotic material in itself is unappetizing but because the material offered is by its very nature unappealing to women.

Women did not respond with physical arousal to erotic imagery, but the one factor that produced the most results was that the women in the material presented were taking the initiative in the sexual adventures shown. What is wrong with the vast majority of pornography, as far as women like me are concerned, is that it shows sex as men want it.

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