The Search for Pen Pals

I've had a terrible time navigating this site because of all of the bots and people pretending to be here looking for pen pals (you'd think that they would realize that their profiles all sound exactly the same, but I digress....). It also probably doesn't help that I am married and not pretending to be someone other than who I really am: someone looking to get through the days by occasionally chatting with someone else.

Who am I?

I've always been someone that was comfortable in his own skin. I am a terribly curious person - I am constantly reading and learning about new things, which comes in handy in my job as a consultant. I am always smiling, although people are often surprised to find out later that I am an introvert. And because I am an introvert, I can't stand small talk. I want to either be laughing or I want to be an intimate conversation. As I've said in my profile, I am married and I am not treating this as a dating site. I am just looking for pen pals. Also, I am a unique personality and a very free spirit. I try to be the best person that I can be and to leave the planet better than I found it.

Hobbies: Movies (watching and reviewing - I have my own review site), good tv shows, long rides on my motorcycle, exercise (no joke!), making gadgets, using gadgets, long walks with my pooch, sleeping in (which never happens because of the pooch). My favorite thing to do in the world is to read in the hammock in the summer (which is really code for taking a nap on a beautiful summer afternoon).

Who am I Looking for in a pen pal?

I've done this on and off over the years so I have a decent idea of what works and what doesn't. And in my experience, it is easier to say what doesn't work. First, friendships across cultures rarely work. The reason for this is simple: we are bound together by the things we have in common. People fool themselves by thinking that they are going to find out about other cultures here, and it is a myth. If you want to find out about other cultures (and I do!), go live there for a while. Sure, we can talk about the difference in cultures for a few emails... and then what?

Also, in my experience, people that are super religious don't seem to mix well with me. Don't get me wrong - I couldn't care less what religion someone is. I care about who you are, not what you claim to be. But to a lot of other people, it is more important to talk the talk than walk the walk. I'll leave it at that.

As I said in my profile, I gravitate towards people that don't take themselves too seriously. That doesn't mean that you can't be serious - I love having deep conversations about anything. But I am also a ham and a goof. In a previous (work) life, I had a 'work wife', and I enjoyed that very much.

Also, I strongly prefer female pen pals. There is no other reason for this other than I already have plenty of opportunity to hang out with the guys in the bar after the game.

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